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"The evil one wants to use our parents to plant the seeds of doubt in our hearts and minds.
-- Steve & Bonnie Stephenson; see full quote
The International Churches of Christ (ICC) takes pride in being controversial as if the presence of controversy proves that the organization is doing whats right. However, this section will illustrate that much of the ICCs controversy in society comes not just from its beliefs, but from ICC practices that even the world might regard as unethical.
Families, the bedrock of society, often find themselves at odds with the ICC.
The ICC claims that Gods Kingdom Unites Families,(1) yet it drives wedges between the members of many families. ICC leadership mainly sees family members as either potential recruits, or potential enemies of the organization:
Seeing our parents become disciples can be one of the greatest faith builders but seeing them not respond to the truth can be one of Satan's greatest faith obstacles. The evil one wants to use our parents to plant the seeds of doubt in our hearts and minds.
Steve & Bonnie Stephenson (Sector Leaders), Blood, Sweat, And Tears: the battle for our parents, orlandochurch.org, 2000.
Although some family relationships may improve as a result of someone joining the ICC, this is hardly the norm.
Wedges are driven early on. During recruitment, new ICC members may be asked to agree that all of their non-ICC family members are lost, thus diminishing the familys credibility in their eyes. The ICC trains members to expect persecution at home, saying parents can be a source of persecution, especially if they have heard of or have been sent negative information about the church (2) ICC leaders may tell member that their spiritual growth is being impeded if they choose to live with non-ICC family members.
One pre-holiday lesson even instructs members to get advice (or permission) about family visits:
If you are leaving town, get advice about how long to be gone, about how to get with disciples in other cities. If you have never opened up your various family dynamics and received input, make this a priority.
Thomas Jones, ed. (Senior Editor), Twelve Ways to Keep the Holidays Spiritual and Joyful, The Disciples Handbook, DPI, Woburn, MA, 1997, p. 161.
When family friction results from someone joining the ICC, it comes as no surprise to the ICC's founder:
When you tell people that youre to love God and the church more than their physical family, youre going to make some enemies.
Kip McKean (ICC Founder), Preach the Word, World Missions Leadership Conference, Johannesburg, audiotape, August 9, 1995.
The ICC typically refuses to accept responsibility for the division it can cause in families. The organization is never to blame. Consider this McKean response:
[Critics say] these people, theyre wrecking up families all over the United States, and all over the world, well thats a half-truth. Hey, I wont apologize for the sword of the Spirit, when people respond, that a mother is going to be set up against a daughter. A father against a son, when sons and mothers take stands for Jesus Christ in their own families, theres going to be problems, even Jesus had problems. But lets not forget the families that both come to Christ, the marriages that are reconciled, the families that come together. That is a half-truth that borderline comes on out to be a lie.
Kip McKean, Follow-Up Study 4: The Mission, DPI Archive Cassette Series, Tape # 10079, recorded circa 1989.
McKean above points out those families with multiple ICC members as if to say that families wont have a problem with the ICC if only everyone in the family would join the organization. He oversimplifies the problem by blaming spirituality for ICC members estrangement from their families, when many parents actually support their ICC sons or daughters faith, but simply oppose ICC methods.
The ICC organization has targeted even exploited the youth of society to meet its own needs. Youth to the ICC are instruments for recruiting, and at increasingly young ages, objects of its recruiting.
ICC children are groomed from the start to be adult members of an organization in which they never chose to be raised. ICC leadership has put increasing emphasis on Kingdom Kids (term for children of ICC members) as its membership ages and growth rate slows. When Kingdom Kids reach sufficient age, the organization will seek to make them baptized members.(3) The ICCs Kingdom Kids ministry paves the way, saying its curriculum exists to teach the children to cherish and to choose God and his kingdom [the ICC].(4)
ICC leadership sees members children as an asset to help them recruit, and expects parents to train children for this role. One senior ICC leader tells approvingly of his young daughters involvement in inviting strangers to church:
My great joy in life is when she [Tranchells daughter] asks Mommy or Daddy if we are going to invite the people at the next table to come to church with us. I remember her at the age of one-and-a-half going down the aisle of a trolley in Milan handing out invitations in Italian. I remember her at the age of three in Zurich handing out invitations in German and being concerned as to how many people would be coming with us to church. I want my daughter and son to have the kingdom of God on their hearts more than anything else because it alone will last.
Bob Tranchell (Geographic Sector Leader), Wise Investing, First The Kingdom, ed. Thomas & Sheila Jones, DPI, Woburn, MA, 1994, p. 78-79.
Some ICC children are taught to strategize about getting adults involved in the church. The ten-year-old son of ICC evangelist Jeff Chacon co-wrote an article with his dad, giving pointers on how kids can help convert their schoolteachers:
"1) Well, first you have to do good in class or else he [teacher] wont trust you.
"2) Second, you have to be bold and invite him to church.
"3) If he has a son or daughter, try to have them over so you can play."
Jeff Chacon (Region Leader) & Tyler Chacon (son), Helping Kids to Be Personally Fruitful, South Florida website, icc-csa.org/southflorida, June 1999.
The senior Chacon reports baptizing 12 of the kids friends parents . . . in the last 5 years.(5)
Kip McKean said that his childrens extracurricular activities were ultimately recruitment vehicles for the church:
See, youve got to understand why you do everything. Theyre involved in tennis right now. Is tennis so they can be stars? No. Is tennis so they can have a college scholarship? No. The purpose of tennis is so they can reach out to other people. When they get to junior high, and they get to high school, I want to have kids that, to the degree they can be, they can be cool kids in the eyes of the world. That way, they can bring more people to Bible Talk. And they can win more souls for Jesus.
Kip McKean, Malachi: Gods Radical Demand for Remaining Radical, Manila, DPI Archive Cassette Series, Tape # 9104, 1994.
Increasingly, pre-teens and teens have become the objects of ICC recruitment. The Los Angeles International Church of Christ set an attendance goal of 2,000 for its 1999 teen rally,(6) and baptized 387 teens that year.(7) Some ICC congregations have instituted mentors for pre-teenage children(8) a precursor to discipling partners. Kip McKean wrote in the LA church magazine that, Discipleship partners are essential for every single baptized and unbaptized teen and pre-teen.(9) McKean explained the importance of teen efforts in creating future campus ministry leaders for the ICC:
Creating powerful teen ministries is synonymous with creating powerful campus ministries, for as radical teens are raised up and graduate, they shall rise to become the next line of prophets to forcefully advance the Kingdom of God on the campuses.
Kip McKean & Jonathan Perkins (Geographic Sector Leader), acesonline.org, March 1999.
College and University students, in turn, make the ICCs most fertile ground for recruiting its future leaders, as the ICC book Disciples on Campus proclaims:
"Filled with young men and women looking to change the world and find meaning in their lives, the college campus is a potential gold mine for converting and raising up powerful leaders in Gods modern day kingdom.
Curt Simmons (Evangelist), In the Company of Prophets: Dealing with Persecution, in Disciples on Campus, ed. Marty Fuqua and Gregg Marutzky, DPI, Woburn, MA, 2000, p. 57.
(Read more about ICC campus ministries in the article Campus Recruiting)
The ideal progression for the ICC organization is clear: it grooms Kingdom Kids to be ICC teens, it grooms ICC teens to be campus ministry leaders, and it grooms campus ministry members to be adult leaders for the ICC. Young people may not yet have a plan for their own lives, but the ICC has a plan for them.
The ICC also clashes with society in the workplace. While the organization publicly encourages their members to be successful on the job, it privately asks them to put the ICC first. One ICC study plainly asks members, Are you willing to excel in work/school without making it your first priority?(10)
The ICCs Kingdom-first priorities create professional conflicts for many members. When work schedules conflict with ICC events, members are expected to put the ICC first. When recruiting at work creates friction with employers or fellow employees, ICC members may be expected to continue recruiting, because in the organizations view sharing your faith at work can be tricky, confusing, discouraging, exciting, terrifying and much more. But one thing it is not, is optional.(11)
ICC leadership may restrict members career opportunities by discouraging them from relocating to accept new positions. The ICC expects members to decline job offers in non-ICC cities:
You and I both need fellowship and friendship. Turn down the lucrative offer in remote places. If there is no church there and you are not going on a mission team there, then why risk it?
Mike Taliaferro (Geographic Sector Leader), The Killer Within: An African Look at Disease, Sin and Keeping Yourself Saved, DPI, Woburn, MA, 1997, p. 112
Kip McKean even implied that Los Angeles ICC members werent supposed to move to other ICC cities:
We have a policy that, hey, you don't move out of L.A. Tell you what what about jobs? You know, we believe in a God a God that can get jobs. He parted the cotton-picking Red Sea, slayed a giant, raised Jesus from the dead, don't you think that he can handle getting a job? Why do people move for jobs? It's money. It's flat mammon. [mammon is a KJV term for money] You arent teaching your people it's okay to move for mammon it isn't okay to move for mammon.
Kip McKean, The Dream: Super Churches, Part 1, DPI Archive Cassette Series, Tape # 7762, 1992.
When the organization does encourage members career advancement, it is often with the goal to help the ICC:
I believe that disciples should have the highest positions wherever they are. Why? Because I believe theyre the best employees, I believe that God will bless you, I believe you should get promoted, I believe that people that arent getting promoted need to be talked to why not? Is it the companys problem could be or is it your problem? Lets get promoted, lets get even more money. Why? Take care of more people. Send out more missions.
Jim Brown (Geographic Sector Leader), Personal Budget Workshop, New York, audiotape, August 23, 1997.
The ICC organization expects many of its most talented members as the ultimate kingdom-first sacrifice to leave their careers in order to become full-time leaders. Members are expected to aspire to leadership, and Kip McKean once said the most talented people in our churches need to go in the ministry, period (12) ICC leadership may exert considerable pressure to leave careers. McKean described the approach to take when recruiting members into ministry:
Were afraid to call our young people into the ministry. Well, whatever you want to do, you know, if, you know, we all, its just kind of a personal Jesus didnt do that to Peter and the gang. He says, Listen, would you take up would you just bag the boats, would you leave your nets he didnt say please and they went immediately. See, our problem is, were trying to sweet talk people into the ministry. What youve got to say is, Hold it. Bro, youre the most talented guy I got. Now, you got a lousy heart at the moment, but that we can deal with. You need to repent, youre talented, youve given up everything to God, now lets get going, lets start training for the ministry.
Kip McKean, Malachi , 1994.
The ICCs claim to help members careers is inconsistent with the real lives of many members, as the ICC calls them to subjugate their careers to the organizations needs, or to abandon their vocations altogether.
To the huge social problem of chemical addiction, the ICC offers a predictable solution: itself.
In addition to helping many to get sober, the ICCs CR, or Chemical Recovery ministries also gets them involved with the ICC. World Sector Leader Steve Johnson, who helped start the first CR ministry in the New York City Church of Christ, says that CR is not a benevolent outreach program. It is not a social program. It is church. It is discipleship. He also says that the the bottom line in CR is very intense discipling.(13)
Intense, even harsh discipling is what another ICC leader spoke about in describing an ICC chemical recovery ministry in the UK:
In London we have whats called the ODAT program, its a One Day At a Time, people on drugs, and alcoholism I think its is it sixty days, John? Sixty days where you dont move outside the house, you just stay within the house, and its a D-group [discipleship group] every single day where youre challenged on admitting you are a drug addict, heres your life, heres your sin, and it is we feel like our D-groups are hard. These things, they tear, they tear skin off of I mean, they strip each other. Because they really want to get rid of all the pride and all the defensiveness, so then they can be shaped.
Chris McGrath (Geographic Sector Leader), 2-5 Years in the Ministry: Are We Having Fun Yet? Manila, DPI Archive Cassette Series, Tape #9133, 1994.
The ICCs reason for using discipling as a technique for achieving sobriety? According to one ICC website, the CR model considers chemical dependency a sin rather than merely a disease:
every effort is made to help the individual realize that his or her battle with drugs is a spiritual issue. The CR Ministry is based on the conviction that only the hand of God, through the power of the Holy Spirit, can break the grip of chemical dependency.
Chemical Recovery Ministry: "Free At Last", Triangle Church website, trianglechurch.org, 1999.
Whats makes CRs diagnosis of addiction as sin problematic is that the ICC doesnt equip members to combat sin outside the ICC: leaving the ICC is not considered an option. In fact, CR members may be irresponsibly told that they will relapse if they leave the ICC/CR which can create self-fulfilling prophecies for recovering addicts who do leave.
While other (non-ICC) chemical recovery programs also appeal to the religious views of patients as motivation, the ICCs CR ministries go further by eliminating other options. The ICC, which claims to be the only valid religious group (see One True Church), seems to have no problem limiting members' options. CR members may stay in the ICC, believing it is their only chance to stay clean and sober hooked by the very program that was supposed to prepare them for a life of sobriety. CR members may end up trading one dependency for another.
Kip McKeans scathing opposition to excess weight is an example of how the opinions and predilections of top leaders get spread throughout the organization:
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but today, I look around this auditorium, and over 50 percent of you are significantly overweight, and its disgusting.
"Ill be honest Im embarrassed to be around some of you people. I hug you and my hand goes into your sides. See, weve all learned to hug up high instead of down low, because, you know. Let me tell you something, you sisters and you listen to me good. I have sisters in the LA church come to me, Well, I dont know why this brother doesnt like this sister, I mean, shes just a little bit overweight. Yeah, because youre overweight, and you dont want to make it a big deal in your life. It is a huge deal, thats the body, that is the temple of the Holy Spirit. How you look is how you are. And some of you married women have gotten so grossly overweight, and so you cant understand why your star little intern whos overweight, none of the brothers like. Because its flat unspiritual to be overweight. Lets lay it out what the Bible calls it its gluttony. And let me tell you something. The primary offenders in this room are not women, but brothers. And there is an incredible double standard. The thing that really scares me, I see some of your children chubby. Well, theyre just going through a baby-fat stage. Oh, no sir. And you are destining your kid to be laughed at, to be mocked. And that kid should be in the Kingdom of God, and people do not laugh at Gods children.
Kip McKean, Malachi , 1994. (about audio clips)
McKeans words go beyond a healthy concern about weight. Other ICC leaders, in turn, teach members that being overweight (by leaderships definition) is a sin. ICC members may get discipled about their weight, and excess pounds can explicitly prevent them from advancing in the organization. (Womens Region Geographic Sector Leader) Theresa Brown in one seminar characterized overweight women as having a heart problem, saying, theres some problems with your heart that are manifesting themselves in a physical way in you. (14)
Being overweight is complex, resulting from different causes in different people. ICC leaderships attributing everyones excess pounds to gluttony and "heart" problems is erroneous and needlessly damaging to some members self-esteem.
ICC dating is highly regulated by the group. Members are instructed to date only other ICC members, on the rationale that Obviously you will marry someone you date; therefore, you date only Christians [ICC members]. (15) New ICC converts will be expected to break up pre-existing dating relationships unless their boyfriend/girlfriend is interested in becoming a member:
[It is] a must to make the decision that if the person is not really interested in becoming a Christian or is pulling the other person down spiritually, they [the new ICC member] will break it off immediately.
Randy McKean, ed., (World Sector Leader), Lordship, Additional Studies for Making Disciples, The Disciples Handbook, DPI, Woburn, MA, 1997, p. 45.
Ironically after breaking any prior dating attachments, the ICC encourages and sometimes pressures members to date frequently:
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Habit #1: Date often. Got to be honest here. If you dont date often, youre weird. You cant disciple men, or be a disciple maker if you dont date often, because its not manly. Youre weird. How are you going to study the Bible with men when theyre talking about the babes theyre running with, and you havent gone out with anybody in a month?
Jim Brown, Dating in the Kingdom, DPI, Woburn, MA, 1997, tape 3 (about audio clips)
Societys view of dating even in its most innocent form is altered by the ICC. Leadership imposes strict guidelines for physical contact on dates:
There should be no inappropriate physical contact. Be sensitive when giving hugs. Kissing and holding hands are reserved for, and not always practiced by, steady dating couples. The majority of your dating should always be with other couples [double dates].
Anthony and Saun Galang (Region Leaders), Not Just Another Saturday Night: Christian Dating, in Disciples on Campus, ed. Marty Fuqua and Gregg Marutzky, DPI, Woburn, MA, DPI, 2000, p. 104.
Partially to enforce ICC rules on dating behavior, members are expected to seek advice and report details of their dates to their discipling partners:
Seek advice. Seek some more advice. Yet seek some more advice. And be open. Completely open. About temptations, struggles, fears, everything. Im not saying be open to the sister about that, Im saying be open to men that can help you.
Jim Brown, Dating in the Kingdom, 1997, tape 2.
Theresa Brown asserts that there arent dating rules, per se there are no rules,(16) when in fact many of the ICCs dating guidelines certainly function as rules to members. Guidelines may include a 15-minute limit on phone calls with the opposite sex, midnight date curfews, acceptable time limits on kisses, required double-dating, etc. Members may be restricted from dating one person regularly without going steady and expected to get a green light of approval from leadership to do that.
As the ultimate intrusion in its members dating lives, ICC leadership gives itself the authority to break off members relationships. Leadership may break up couples it does not perceive to be on the same spiritual level, even when the two members wish to be together.
ICC leadership describes marriage as a vehicle to help members get to heaven, and considers members marriages its own jurisdiction. Leadership generally approves all ICC marriages in advance, sometimes matching specific couples together with compatibility being secondary to the needs of the kingdom. Jim Brown explains his view of ICC marital compatibility:
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I believe anybody can be happily married with just about anybody. That is my conviction. I believe any brother can be happily married with any sister. Because its not a matter of looks or feelings or natural things. Its a matter of servitude, gratitude, and denying yourself that makes a relationship.
Jim Brown, Dating in the Kingdom, 1997, tape 3. (about audio clips)
Like other societal institutions (see Families, Careers, Control of Dating Relationships), the ICC seems to see Marriage as another tool to meet the organization's needs. A womans leadership role in the ICC is determined by her husbands(17) as the organizational structure dictates that ICC leaders serve as married ministry couples. As a result, ICC leaders and potential leaders may face manipulation as leadership nudges them toward marriage partners who are leadership material and away from any prospective spouses who are not on the same spiritual level.
In a troubling excerpt from a womens leadership seminar, Kip McKean implied that women are responsible for the sexual faithfulness of their husbands:
You need to provide the kind of love life for him that fulfills him. I really believe that if theres problems in the marriage, it's the man's fault, ultimately. But I believe if theres sexual problems, if he's having struggles with lust and pornography and adultery, I think that sister better take a long, hard look... a lot of you have such messed up marriages that you are in danger, of losing his soul, and yours, your childrens, and the souls of the un-won people that he could have won if he would have stayed an evangelist for the Lord's church. I really believe, sisters, we've got to deal with the fact that some of us are fat I'm not kidding. If you are fat, if you're overweight, you're not attractive to a guy. This is serious. And if you're not attractive to your man, you can cause him to fall into gross sins."
Kip McKean, Be Perfectly United, DPI Archive Cassette Series, Tape # 4056, 1987.
Through McKeans twisted logic, womens extra weight causes men to sin, and souls to be lost.
Each married ICC couple is discipled by another married couple. Leadership expects openness and accountability with another couple with absolutely no topics off limits for discussion, i.e. the past, arguments, sex, schedule, finances (18) Even the marital bed is not beyond the scope of ICC discipling. One article about discipling lists Areas to Probe (Never Assume) including even the sexual frequency of married members. (19)
All of this control and intrusion is rationalized by the goal of keeping members faithful. However, one consequence is a lack of confidentiality between ICC spouses. Kip McKean has implied that couples should withhold nothing from their disciplers:
If you haven't been growing spiritually, I want you to look at your heart tonight and say, Hold it, do I have secret sin? Do I have things I've not confessed? Have I made a deal with my husband or wife not to talk about what's going on at home?
Kip McKean, Purpose for Life, Pasadena, audiotape, November 7, 1998.
One Los Angeles leader told members that they need to even appreciate it when their spouse discloses marital information to disciplers:
Let me just lay this out here. What really saddens me, is when husbands get attitudes because their wives are getting open about whats going on in the marriage. What is that all about? youve got a person that loves you so much, theyre trying to keep you spiritual, theyre tying to get you to heaven what are you cotton pickin getting attitudes about? You need to humble out. And you need to be grateful that God put that person in your life, that stuff is getting exposed in your life, stuff is getting exposed in your marriage, so that you can make it to heaven.
John Unzueta, Ephesians Study VI, Ventura (CA) Sector, audiotape, May 19, 1999.
Amazingly, in spite of its extreme interference in members marital lives, ICC leadership continues to promote the myth that good marriages are impossible outside the ICC. The ICC has even claimed dubiously that none of its members have ever divorced:
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The amazing thing about marriage in the kingdom [ICC] is this and I checked with Al [Baird] no divorce. There has never been a divorce in all of our churches, from disciples that have always remained faithful to God.
Kip McKean, Jubilee Message, The Kingdom of God, DPI Archive Cassette Series, Tape # 14025, November 11, 2000. (about audio clips)
This often-repeated statement becomes hollow when examined. First, it shows that the ICC prohibits divorce therefore, no member can divorce his or her ICC spouse and remain a member in good standing. Second, there's the catch-22: any couple that divorces proves that at least one of the couple has already left God, keeping the ICCs no divorces claim intact. Finally, there's a loophole left for leadership: ICC leaders can allow and even prompt members to divorce their non-member spouses if they create problems for the group.
(1) title of article by David Bruce (Geographic Sector Administrator), kingdomnewsnet.org, August 11, 2000.
(2) Curt Simmons (Evangelist), In the Company of Prophets: Dealing with Persecution, in Disciples on Campus, ed. Marty Fuqua and Gregg Marutzky, DPI, Woburn, MA, 2000, p. 60.
(3) Al Baird (World Sector Leader), I Know What You Kingdom Kids Did Last Summer, LA Story, October 1999, p. 2.
(4) Kingdom Kids Curriculum, Discipleship Publications International, 1998, p. 9.
(5) Jeff Chacon (Region Leader) & Tyler Chacon (son), Helping Kids to Be Personally Fruitful, South Florida website, icc-csa.org/southflorida, June 1999.
(6) John Unzueta (Sector Leader), Ephesians Study V, Ventura (CA) Sector, audiotape, May 12, 1999.
(7) XTREME Teens on a mission, LA Story, September/October 2000, p. 5.
(8) Ann Deam, Preteen Mentors - A Plan for Maximum Impact, South Florida website, icc-csa.org/southflorida, February 1999.
(9) Kip McKean (ICC founder), Gods Teen Ministry, LA Story, October 1999.
(10) Randy McKean, ed., (World Sector Leader), Lordship, Additional Studies for Making Disciples, The Disciples Handbook, DPI, Woburn, MA, 1997, p. 46.
(11) Douglas Jacoby (Kingdom Teacher), Shining Like Stars: The Evangelism Handbook for the New Millennium, mil. ed., DPI, Woburn, MA, 2000, p. 41.
(12) Kip McKean, My Glory Means Nothing, audio recording, 1993.
(13) Steve Johnson (World Sector Leader), introduction, chemicalrecovery.org, n.d.
(14) Theresa Brown (Geographic Sector Leader Women), Dating in the Kingdom, DPI, Woburn, MA, 1997, tape 3.
(15) Randy McKean, ed., Lordship, Additional Studies for Making Disciples, The Disciples Handbook, DPI, Woburn, MA, 1997, p. 45.
(16) Theresa Brown, Dating in the Kingdom, 1997, tape 2.
(17) Kip McKean, Be Perfectly United, DPI Archive Cassette Series, Tape # 4056, 1987.
(18) Kip McKean, Family Discipling: The Acid Test, The Leaders Resource Handbook, Volume One, DPI, Woburn, MA, 1998, p. 25.
(19) Kip McKean, Counseling One Another: Maturity in Christ, The Leaders Resource Handbook , 1998, p. 22.
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